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Well. I am a woman who loves sex. Loves it. Loves it with men. Loves it with women. I don’t discriminate based on gender – but please, avoid the word “bisexual”. That just makes me think of sorority girls who make out with their BFFs at parties because the boys like it. Or straight girls who like the attention of not-straight girls – but care less about leading someone on and more about the fact that boys like it.

In addition to my interest in sex, I am not going to tell you too much more about myself. I am successful at my day job. I am smart, independent, and confident. I have a wonderful family and wonderful friends. In short? I love my life – and even though I know I’ll sound pretty much pissed half the time, I’m actually a very happy individual. But none of that really matters. What I’m here about has nothing to do with me, personally. This blog is anonymous. Exactly three people know I am writing it. I just don’t want to have to censor myself – and, as I’m going to talk about my life, I’ll be discussing me friends. I don’t want them to be hurt, take things the wrong way, or get mad that I put their personal life on the interwebs.

So. What exactly do I want, as far as relationships are concerned? Well. Right now? Honestly, I don’t need anyone’s emotions all up in my shit, taking up my time. I don’t need daily phone calls/e-mails/texts. I don’t WANT those things. What I WANT is a lot of sex on a regular basis and to have fun. That’s it. Period. Sure – if something more transpires I’m not going to kick it out of bed. I’ll make time and energy for something that’s worth it. But – that isn’t what I am actively looking for, nor is it something I need to be happy. And I am not willing to change myself or make unnecessary concessions simply to keep someone around.

I don’t want to get married any time soon. There are about three children in this world I even like and I’m still glad they aren’t mine.

And no, I’m not 21 years old. I’m staring 30 in the face (I’m 29). Well. Not really staring it in the face – I’d say I’m more ignoring it than anything. I measure my life in my accomplishments (both in life and work) and the people around me. Not in years. Age ain’t nothin’ but a number, baby.

This is me. Take it or leave it. I don’t pretend to be perfect (clearly I am not), but I’ll decide the changes I need to make. And I’ll make them for me.

Finally – yes. That is me in the photo at the top of the page.

34 Comments leave one →
  1. June 10, 2010 10:47 am

    Bloody brilliant.

  2. August 19, 2010 1:40 pm

    Most interesting. Just found the blog via a comment you made on Emily’s blog.

    Will have to read some more. But so far I like it. There is something really refreshing about a woman who: 1) is intelligent, 2) speaks her mind, 3) knows what she likes and doesn’t, 4) is willing to speak up and be heard.

    Looking forward to reading more.

    • August 20, 2010 10:58 am

      Thanks Melanierae and TAG! I am happy to be refreshing – and bloody brilliant apparently! 🙂

      Thanks for reading and I hope to hear more from you…

  3. October 29, 2010 8:35 pm

    Love it. It’s a cliche but “do you”.

  4. October 29, 2010 8:45 pm

    Girl, I’m so glad you stopped by our blog. As I read your words I was cheering and stomping my feet in my mind. I love how clear you are about what you want. It’s inspired really. I’ll definitely be back.

    • October 30, 2010 4:22 am

      Hey thanks! You made my morning, guys! I hope I can inspire, I suppose, because bottom line we should all be clear about what we want. Doesn’t mean it’s set in stone but still.

      Looking forward to hearing from you!

  5. November 25, 2010 2:39 pm

    Loved the introduction! Nice to see there are women out there that speak their mind and are clear about what they want. Nice one!

  6. December 6, 2010 9:57 am

    1. we’re the same age. (well, i’m almost 29)

    2. we’re both scared as HEAL of marriage – or more or less what that might mean, or change us into.

    3. kids? no. i like being able to stay the night somewhere at my leisure. same reason I don’t have a dog.

    • December 6, 2010 6:02 pm

      1. I just turned 30. Whoop-ee-de-do.

      2. I think I’ll leave the sanctity of marriage to others. I think I’d only help with the corruption of it.

      3. I would actually like a dog.

  7. December 13, 2010 10:03 pm

    well howdy, ms nikkio4! we share a common worldview regarding relationships – ‘cept i got here a rather different route. 48. divorced. grown children. oh, and a dog. you seriously want to think about a dog. mine rocks…

    • December 14, 2010 2:34 pm

      Hi Miss Daisy Fae! Thanks for stopping by! Hey – the difference in routes just makes it more interesting when you end up in the same place!

      I WANT a dog. I just need more space, time, and money. And to be settled. Adopting a dog is a serious thing – I don’t take it lightly. It’s like having children. Only a different species.

  8. December 30, 2010 6:25 pm

    I am loving the blog and the realness on display…. may we play tag? I want to drop you on my Blogroll.

    • January 4, 2011 1:04 am

      Absolutely. I love tag. 😉

      Thanks for the compliments!

  9. January 14, 2011 5:28 pm

    Thanks for the shout out for my film. Single or not — we all need to give and receive love and you’ve clearly got the lovely loving spirit for that!

    • January 15, 2011 12:38 am

      Hi!! This is a lil crazy that you’re commenting on my blog… !!

      I LOVE your film (Inlaws & Outlaws – other readers, check it out!).

      Thanks! 😀

  10. January 17, 2011 4:16 pm

    Thanks for leaving the really thoughtful comment on my New Years post!

    I love your intro. Its very refreshing & honest. 🙂

    • January 17, 2011 7:36 pm

      Hey! Thanks! Hope things are still looking up for you in 2011 ~ I think you had enough shit in 2010… Of course, last I checked, Life doesn’t care all that much about what I think… the trick is not to take that personally!

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    March 30, 2011 2:00 am

    I hope the R benefits you….
    A husband is a fucking mess Nicole…
    A Dr Named Nikki owns me…

  12. April 13, 2011 3:29 am

    I don’t think that woman are from mars but from moon.
    I invite you to peek in my italinglish tin box:

    I hope to soon

  13. Lily permalink
    June 28, 2011 3:29 am

    Awesome, awesome, awesome, bloody fabulous blog! I can’t wait to read more…

  14. August 21, 2011 1:17 pm

    So glad I found you–thank you for the very thoughtful comment of my guest post on Simone Grant’s blog. I’m very excited to read more of what you have to say about loving sex–and having a lot of it.

  15. October 25, 2011 9:27 pm

    well howdy, ms nikkio4! we share a common worldview regarding relationships – ‘cept i got here a rather different route. 48. divorced. grown children. oh, and a dog. you seriously want to think about a dog. mine rocks…

  16. November 19, 2011 2:25 am

    I have nominated you for the award please have a look as given below;
    Thank you

  17. January 3, 2012 12:01 pm

    I am so excited to have discovered your blog! Thanks for stopping by Change From Within so that I could find a new blog to follow! I look forward to seeing where Women are From Mars goes in 2012!

    In Peace,


  18. January 7, 2012 1:21 pm

    I love your approche and love the way you describe it! I am the same, independent , free runner and happy person – but – i am in a relationship. It doesn’t change anything for me as my second half accept my willdness and independence, he accept that I party more with my girl-friends than with him. He doesn’t mind me to get drunk and he never limit myself! That’s the reason why we still togiether 😉
    Thanks & warm regards

    • January 13, 2012 11:29 am

      It is important for relationships that you can be yourself and enjoy life. Happiness is not contingent on being in or not in a relationship!

  19. January 12, 2012 11:17 am

    Thats’ an incredibly honest and bold description on this page. I tried being bold like that on the FB and it came back to bite me! ~not in a good way! But you seem to be safe with the Anonymous down and happy so good for you! Being happy is what it is all about! Great blog!

    • January 13, 2012 11:32 am

      Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that it “came back to bite you”! That’s not ok! Shitballs. Was it people you normally interact with or strangers? Either way, I don’t like the sound of that, and you should be able to be honest about who you are in your world.

      I’m actually pretty much the same way here around my friends. I’ve considered leaving behind anonymity several times, and will think about it again in the future, I am sure. Here, I use it because, on very rare occasions, I blog about my friends or people I have crushes on. While I never use real names, if all my friends read this blog, they’d still know who I was talking about, and that wouldn’t be ok. SO it’s more for me to feel free to express things and use my life as example than anything else. Sure, that seems kinda shitty in of itself, I suppose, but.. I tend to think of it more to protect the innocent and to keep drama out of my life!

      • January 13, 2012 12:58 pm

        I don’t think it is shitty at all. I just know how you keep it a secret from your friends. Its see,s if one knew it would slowly trickle around. The FB thing was a person that I got to know over the course of 18 months, we took an interest in each others life and, long story short was a complete imposter, posing as a someone when in reality was some lonely someone with too much time on their hands. The person in reality was a real shit. And if I wouldn’t have done some digging at one point would still be spilling my life to. So just be careful. I’ll accept you are probably smarter than me on matters like this, based on the various avenues your passion seems to take you. I have to imagine that is tricky too. ~but I do love your stories and insights!!

      • January 13, 2012 11:20 pm

        YIKES!!! Well, I am glad you figured it out!! I guess we live and learn, but sometimes do the lessons have to be so hard??

        Thanks for your comments and thanks for reading!

  20. April 19, 2012 9:18 am

    I’ve nominated you for a TMI Blog Award! You can see the details back on my page


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