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This blog.

Below is the initial “about this blog” text that I wrote. And then I started writing. And it became about far more than just “I want to have sex more than he does” and “WTF is wrong with him? Oh, right… the Fear”


It started to be more about my life and about the things that are important to me. Although I do fully believe there are things about sex and relationships and men and women that need re-evaluation, and have some funny dating stories… I am much more than this.

I am not Carrie – nor do I want to be (what a fucking whiny shallow bitch, even if I did love SATC as a TV show).

I am a lipstick hippie. I am a goddamn tree-hugging, dirt-worshiping, dirty-dancing, tassel-twirling, bike-riding, yoga-practicing, love-my-life, crazy environmentalist-feminist-locavore-carnivore-sex fiend-bitch-on-wheels.

And, as such, my life and what concerns me is more than who I date and who I screw.

So. Now this blog is not just about dating lame boys and how women want sex and the Twilight Zone. This is also about the things that mean something to me, namely environmental concerns and the rights of women and the LGBT+ community.

And yes. I do think I have something to say.

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I know. Another blog on sex and relationships. What – aren’t there already five thousand of these out there?

Well. I hope this one is a little different – and not only in style (they’re based on, or word-for-word, e-mail correspondence). I’m not out for a web-based soap box. Instead, I’d like to start some discussion. I’d actually like some feedback. Yeah, I do want my soap-box (because damn straight I have some opinions and a few bones that require picking) but I also want to know if you think I’m right, off my effing rocker, or maybe you’ve got a different view I could benefit from.

The bottom line is this: I am surrounded by smart, sexy, funny, beautiful, independent women. And yet… wtf. Wtf wtf wtf. It doesn’t matter how smart, sexy, funny, or beautiful you are, apparently. In addition, we feel the world is not what we were told as little girls. We’re pretty much over the stereotypes and we have some new ideas about men, women, sex, and relationships.

So here we are – sometimes feeling like we’re at our wit’s end with the world. I want to share our theories and our thoughts… and get your insight. Both women AND men. If that’s possible.

And look – I get that whole “he’s just not that into you” stuff. Trust me, I do. I read that book and bet your ass I thought more than once “who would use THAT excuse… oh… wait… yep I’ve definitely said that… holy shit.” If I thought it was that simple all the time, I wouldn’t be writing this. If I thought my friends and I were just not that attractive or there was a more obvious explanation, bet your ass I wouldn’t be here.

That isn’t it. Not all the time. There’s something else going on here.

Half the time? We just feel like… What. The fuck. Is going on.

So. Welcome to this Twilight. Read on. Have an opinion? Please – do share.

*BTW – here, the term “liberal” has little to do with my political leanings.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. December 6, 2010 9:53 am

    all of this basically means, we’re gonna be friends.

    i can tell.

    • December 6, 2010 6:05 pm

      Can we? Although I don’t really make friends that well. I think it’s more that I don’t like meeting new peopl. I mean, I do, it’s just usually they’re kind of boring, and I have plenty of friends who aren’t therefore… what’s the point again?

      However. Your blog is, to quote Miss Vodka, hi-lay so I am sure you’re interesting. And not boring.

      Therefore. Let’s be friends, please.

  2. January 15, 2012 4:02 pm

    Nikki, I’m not so interesting any more; I used to be . : P So I just wanna take notes here and maybe ask a question or two. Thanks for checking in on my blog!

    • January 19, 2012 12:40 am

      Of course – and I think you’re still interesting, maybe in a different way? Would very much enjoy hearing your comments and would love your questions. Thanks!

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