Yoga drama exists???
You know, you go away for two months and things are bound to be different when you get back.
One thing I wasn’t prepared for was the… dun dun dunnnnn… yoga drama.
If your reaction is … “what do you mean yoga drama? Isn’t that an oxymoron?” you would be correct. In theory, it is.
However. As I’ve mentioned, sometimes you put people (like your yoga teachers) on a lil bit of a pedestal. And then, lo and behold, you find out they’re actually normal people, just like you and me.
Case in point.
While I was away, one of my yoga teachers, K, made a difficult (I assume) decision. As we all know, the economy is taking it’s time gettin’ all healthy (as economies do). One of the consequences is that yoga studios, just like other small businesses, are kind of hurting right now. One of the consequences of that is K basically demoted another one of the yoga teachers at this studio – we’ll call her Big Love from my previous post. See, K owns the studio, but Big Love has basically been a “manager” of some kind. Well, K can no longer afford to pay Big Love – so… yeah.
Unfortunately for all, a yoga studio is still a business. These things have to happen.
Well. Big Love decided that was some Bull Shit.
Apparently, things not so good at this studio I adore while I was away (thank goodness my regular practice is at a different studio – that’s right people, I practice at not one but two Ashtanga shalas. I am that lucky). And Big Love is thinking it is time for a Big Move to another state (with her new BF, because less than a year together after being married to someone else for 15 means you should totally move across the country together) and start her own damn studio.
Now, I didn’t bring this up so we can discuss how irrational such things are among yogis. I totally agree, but I think it’s a people problem (and just unfortunate that the yogis aren’t doing a fantastic job of practicing vairagya).
It’s often very interesting to me how people can allow an instance, a fight, a circumstance, an event, to change what they think about another person. It is interesting to me when people allow that one thing to eliminate all previous experiences.
In this case, the one instance of K demoting BL has lead to BL being offended and hurt – instead of remembering who the heck K is and that obviously she didn’t do this to be hurtful.
She’s a yogi for crying out loud. And one of your BFFs, Miss Big Love.
I just think it’s absolutely depressing when relationships deteriorate because instances eradicate an entire history. Why is it so difficult for us to look at the instances in light of all this history instead of the other way around?
It’s just sad, is all. We all do it, we all allow it to happen and cloud our outlook on things.
Boo on that.
Of course, in addition, there is, once again, the idea that people, even yogis that you love and respect, are still people. They fuck up and make bad judgments and aren’t all that aware sometimes.
We all could use a bit more self-reflection, a bit more reflection period, and a bit more compassion. Maybe we should all be able to remember who people have been to us over the long term, when they do something we don’t appreciate in the here and now.