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Yoga drama exists???

December 21, 2010

You know, you go away for two months and things are bound to be different when you get back.

One thing I wasn’t prepared for was the… dun dun dunnnnn… yoga drama.

If your reaction is … “what do you mean yoga drama? Isn’t that an oxymoron?” you would be correct. In theory, it is.

However. As I’ve mentioned, sometimes you put people (like your yoga teachers) on a lil bit of a pedestal. And then, lo and behold, you find out they’re actually normal people, just like you and me.

Case in point.

While I was away, one of my yoga teachers, K, made a difficult (I assume) decision. As we all know, the economy is taking it’s time gettin’ all healthy (as economies do). One of the consequences is that yoga studios, just like other small businesses, are kind of hurting right now. One of the consequences of that is K basically demoted another one of the yoga teachers at this studio – we’ll call her Big Love from my previous post. See, K owns the studio, but Big Love has basically been a “manager” of some kind. Well, K can no longer afford to pay Big Love – so… yeah.

Unfortunately for all, a yoga studio is still a business. These things have to happen.

Well. Big Love decided that was some Bull Shit.

Apparently, things not so good at this studio I adore while I was away (thank goodness my regular practice is at a different studio – that’s right people, I practice at not one but two Ashtanga shalas. I am that lucky). And Big Love is thinking it is time for a Big Move to another state (with her new BF, because less than a year together after being married to someone else for 15 means you should totally move across the country together) and start her own damn studio.

OK, then.

Now, I didn’t bring this up so we can discuss how irrational such things are among yogis. I totally agree, but I think it’s a people problem (and just unfortunate that the yogis aren’t doing a fantastic job of practicing vairagya).

It’s often very interesting to me how people can allow an instance, a fight, a circumstance, an event, to change what they think about another person. It is interesting to me when people allow that one thing to eliminate all previous experiences.

In this case, the one instance of K demoting BL has lead to BL being offended and hurt – instead of remembering who the heck K is and that obviously she didn’t do this to be hurtful.

She’s a yogi for crying out loud. And one of your BFFs, Miss Big Love.

I just think it’s absolutely depressing when relationships deteriorate because instances eradicate an entire history. Why is it so difficult for us to look at the instances in light of all this history instead of the other way around?

It’s just sad, is all. We all do it, we all allow it to happen and cloud our outlook on things.

Boo on that.

Of course, in addition, there is, once again, the idea that people, even yogis that you love and respect, are still people. They fuck up and make bad judgments and aren’t all that aware sometimes.

We all could use a bit more self-reflection, a bit more reflection period, and a bit more compassion. Maybe we should all be able to remember who people have been to us over the long term, when they do something we don’t appreciate in the here and now.


8 Comments leave one →
  1. December 21, 2010 10:50 am

    Well Nikki I guess it just goes to show as you mentioned that everyone is human.
    It sucks that people that should have perspective on life get dragged into the mundane, but hey in our society we have to put food on our tables first.

    Here’s hoping that the spirit of the season will overcome any differences that are still festering between the two.

    Try to have a Jolly One!!


    • December 21, 2010 1:59 pm

      Yep – we’re all human. No truer words.

      I hope things have worked out between them, but I don’t think they’ll ever be the same. Which is bullshit, and very sad.

      Thanks, buddy! You too!

  2. December 21, 2010 10:50 am

    This just goes to show that my hope to escape drama in all forms is impossible. =(

    • December 21, 2010 2:02 pm

      No – not impossible. I think we can step into drama at no fault of our own, no problem. The point is to learn to step away from it when it happens and re-assess. Sure, some people won’t let you do that/listen to you when you have… and that’s when the idea of vairagya, or no-attachment comes in. Sometimes, you can’t worry about other people – you just have to let the shit go. Sometimes, that’s the only way to keep your life the way you want it and to remain drama-free. The drama ends once someone stops adding fuel to the fire – it goes elsewhere to be fed.

      And that, dear Thoughts, is how yoga can be applied to life. It’s all in the Yoga Sutras. No shit. 🙂

  3. bluntdelivery permalink
    December 21, 2010 10:57 am

    dude. that is TOALLY the case. especially with women. they can fricken love someone and they say one thing or do one thing that rubs them the wrong way and BAM, their little mouths start jabbering on about how they never really cared for them.

    I suppose guys do this to some degree, but they are much better at punching eachother and getting over it.

    • December 21, 2010 2:04 pm

      What is UP with that bullshit? It’s amazing to me! I really don’t get it half the time and it leaves me completely dumbfounded.

      Guys DO seem to be better at it. I know it’s stereotypical to say, but yeah – punch it out and it’s over. Although – I think some of my best girl friends and I are good at the full-on honest conversations about difficult shit, that may or may not include screaming matches (we used to call them Come to Jesus talks – even though only some of us are religious). Sure, we throw-down, verbal style, but in the end? We hug that shit out and it’s over.

  4. December 21, 2010 2:16 pm

    Isn’t yoga supposed to promote a calm mind etc? 🙂 Only ever tried it once…. in a freezing communal hall… the relaxing didn’t really work… I was too busy keeping my teeth from shattering.

    Sounds like a slight overreaction was on the books for BL… a shame when a relationship goes to hell.

    • December 21, 2010 2:41 pm

      YES yoga is supposed to calm the mind. And, furthermore, these ladies follow yoga as a way of life, not just poses on a mat. As such, they are aware of the numerous other reasons why this kind of thing shouldn’t happen. Especially between yogis.

      It’s not like I don’t understand BL’s position (sucks to lose your job) but… wrong way to express it, dear.


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