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Sexism is dead. We can all go home now.

December 9, 2010

And now for something serious.

And also: usually I don’t divulge personal information. However. Today I am. Consider yourself lucky.

I am currently working on my PhD. As such, I am on the President’s [of my university, not the US – in case you were wondering] Commission on the Status of Women. We had a meeting today.

The first thing we discussed was the report from the Bias Response Protocol Team meeting.

Background: On campus, there is a hotline you can call to report any “biased interactions.” While this sounds a little lame (to me anyway), this is serious shit. According to their official protocol, it involves the following:

Bias incident: Any conduct, speech or expression that demeans, degrades or harasses an individual or group based upon their membership in a protected category as recognized by law or [this university’s] policy. Examples: anonymous acts of vandalism to public posters, targeted vandalism on a student’s door directed at his/her protected status, directing slurs at a group or individual (whether in person or electronically), harassment that interferes with a person’s educational experience or employment. 

Hate Crime: A crime in which the defendant’s conduct was motivated by hatred, bias, or prejudice, based on the actual or perceived race, color, religion, national origin, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation or disability of another individual or group of individuals. 

Serious, right?

The Bias Incident Team is responsible for responding to calls made to the hotline to report such bias incidents and hate crimes.

The report we discussed was quite informative.

I learned that 41% (or was it 47%?) of all reports made to the Team involved incidents or crimes against women.

(LGBTQ+ is 14% – just in case you were wondering. Fucking homophobes I hates you.)

I also learned that rape is not considered a hate crime.

Finally, I learned that the Bias Response Protocol Team does not have a woman’s advocate involved. E.g. someone from the Committee on the Status of Women (or any of the associated groups) or the on-campus program for [the prevention of rape and sexual harassment – which has a very distinct name so I am not using it].

Not because they haven’t been asked if they’d like a woman’s advocate on the Bias Team. They have been. For the past three years. Not because they don’t have the money for another member. The position would be voluntary. Not because there aren’t volunteers. There are.

The official way in which this was discussed in the meeting is that there is “strong resistance” to having such a member.

Um. What? Maybe 41% isn’t as important as I thought it was. Let me check.

Yep. 41% is still a pretty big piece of the pie

Therefore, I repeat: Um. What?

Ok, first of all, yeah I get it that rape is not always a hate crime. But, you know what? Sometimes it FUCKING IS.

But, alright, fine – that’s ok if you don’t want to include it, Bias Response Team. Why? Because really rape should be reported through other channels that are more specifically designed to deal with it.

But…. no women’s advocates?

Want to know why? Because sexism is dead. Because women’s lib was victorious and we don’t need it anymore. Yay for all that bra-burning and thank goodness we don’t have to do that anymore.

Because women aren’t discriminated against anymore. Because women don’t need advocates anymore.

Kind of like racism. That’s dead too. I mean, we have a black president, duh.

Are. You. Fucking. Serious.

One of the reasons I am on the Committee on the Status of Women is shit like this.

Sexism is not dead. Sexism is underground. Out of sight. Where once was blatant, now is hidden.

Even if you can’t see it like you once could, it is still alive and well, my friends. Don’t believe me? Ask 41% (or maybe 47%) of the callers to the Biased Response hotline. I am sure they would beg to differ.

Oh, furthermore? Those statistics from the Biased Team only include calls to that hotline. They DO NOT include any of the statistics from [the university program to prevent rape and sexual harassment].

Glad to see the edjamakated douchesicles at my fucking university are helping out the cause.


[That’s me pounding on my keyboard. There would be more capital letters to show how angry I am, but you can’t hit the shift key and pound at the same time.]

This is what I fight for, people – and yet, even the advocacy groups, who have gender as one of the reasons for hate crimes, don’t fucking get this???

Fuck this bullshit.

For more on how I feel about it, and what I mean when I say sexism is hidden not dead, please read this post.


24 Comments leave one →
  1. December 9, 2010 9:21 am

    How can a bias team not have a woman’s advocate? So because women are under half, it doesn’t count?

    So frustrating….

    • December 9, 2010 9:38 am

      You’re telling me. I have no words for this douchebagery.

      PS I think I was leaving a comment on your blog while you were leaving one on mine… we crossed paths over the interwebs and didn’t even know it.

      • December 9, 2010 11:05 am

        I love when that happens! The path crossing…not the douchebagery.

  2. December 9, 2010 9:46 am

    WTF??? How…as in HOW.. can it be possible that there is such a high percentage of incidents against women and no women’s advocate? Am I missing something here? Unfortunately we do not live in a reality where all are treated equal and with respect and all the womens lib campaigns through history have not changed it…made it better, yes. But this is not something that can be addressed once and then it will be fine. It will always need to be addressed on a continous basis. Same with homophobia, racism…you name it.

    Hasn’t history shown , on numerous occasions, that humanity has a tendancy to forget and repeat the same mistakes over and over?

    So I totally agree with what you said. Fuck this bullshit!

    • December 9, 2010 6:09 pm

      Yeah… we all asked the woman who went to the meeting why they didn’t want us on their Team. She said she couldn’t really answer that.

      As in, she really didn’t know the answer. Aside from, you know, the one I just discussed.

      Yes – same with racism. I think homophobia is still allowed to be blatant. Which is worse, really.

  3. December 9, 2010 11:24 am

    You would think just from a purely optical viewpoint that it would be in the Universities best interest to have ANY and ALL positions on discrimination panels filled.

    I have to shake my head at how backwards this world can be, we fight wars over seas for these exact reasons. Equality, and we deny our own citizens those exact same benefits. HORSESHIT!!

    I wish the world would give it’s head a shake and look around from time to time.

    • December 9, 2010 6:12 pm

      No kidding! It’s so interesting to me how people in the US say “oh we can hate on Muslims because they don’t let us build churches.”

      Ok, first of all, really?

      And, second of all, if that country really is that discriminatory, why would you want to be their equal? And not their better?

      Yeah. That. People are effing idiots.

  4. Sass permalink
    December 9, 2010 5:14 pm

    That is wrong on so many levels. There has to be some way to get a women’s advocate on the commitee.

    Btw, you’re right. Sexism is not dead at all. Not even injured. I had a friend tell me something the other day when we were talking about flying. He said that if he was getting on the plane and saw that one of the pilots was a women he would turn and walk back off. Apparantly there are things that women just weren’t meant to do. Bullshit if you ask me.

    • December 9, 2010 6:14 pm

      We’re working on it. There isn’t someone from the LGBTQ+ group in campus either. SO we’re going to try and get a letter endorsed by all of us, asking for room on the Team. Along with some other… advice.

      Know what will happen? They’ll allow a LGBTQ+ person, and then say that’s the only additional seat they’ll allow for.

      This shouldn’t be a fucking contest. s’ekljtwerjt90uj94nmtkl34mgtkl sdf, [I resorted to pounding on the keyboard again.]

  5. December 10, 2010 3:12 am

    Oh, well, yeah. Sexism is TOTES DEAD! Uh huh.

    That’s why we live in a rape culture!
    That’s why the pay gap and the glass ceiling persists!
    That’s why fields that are traditionally woman friendly are, you know, so much less important and serious than traditionally male dominated fields. (Humanities vs. STEM fields, because wisdom comes from math and penises, and I speak as someone who loves science like an adorable baby panda but knows its god damn limits).
    That’s why ladies don’t obey the law of averages and ever produce the great novel/painting/symphony of the century…somehow.

    That’s why we are spoonfed drivel about how our bodies will never be good enough, because fuck knows the ladies don’t have anything in the brains department. That’s why women still can’t serve in combat, despite you know, plenty of history demonstrating that they are perfectly capable. NO MOAR SEXISM BITCHEZ! That is why no matter what, no woman will ever be quite good enough.


    I kid, I kid.

    Yeah, you know, it’s worse when it’s the sort of supposed liberal bastion of progressiveness that perpetuates this nonsense. You know how an unexpected bite from a dog you trust hurts worse than anything and always makes you tear up?

    It’s that. Every time that I hear/read some ostensibly liberal saying and/or acting like a misogynist chachbag I just…despair.

    It seems so simple: a problem clearly exists. No-one has been tasked with adequately addressing the problem. Appoint someone to deal with this task. This is how university admin works, no?

    Then again, my university doesn’t even have a system in place to deal with hate speech, so, you know. Students can sit in class and suggest that segregation is a topic which should perhaps be revisited, that institutionalized rape is no big deal if it’s happening to brown women, and so on and so forth.

    I’d like to know, who exactly is the pushback against this coming from?

    Then, after I found out, I’d like to send them a box of angry spiders. Asshats.

    • December 10, 2010 12:58 pm

      The “strong resistance” is coming from more than one person. Let’s send them angry spiders.

      It is like when a dog you like bites you. Because these people are doing the right thing (yay hotlines!) but… wtf is this attitude??? …. oh… right.

      How quickly we forget. How easily we pretend all is well in the world.


      • December 10, 2010 1:06 pm

        Boxes of spiders all around then. What assholes. God knows, our right to go through out days without being reminded of how scared we should be, and how worthless we are at will totally does not trump their right to be privileged. RARGH. Feminist Klingon all around.

  6. December 10, 2010 3:15 am

    Or, more succintly, this:

  7. December 10, 2010 3:16 am

    Well that failed!


  8. Esme permalink
    December 10, 2010 3:48 pm

    So who the hell is on the board? A bunch of men who think crimes against women are ‘cool’ and ‘funny’? I am most curious…
    It surprises me the percentage of women aren’t higher, actually. When I was in college, women made up most of the complaintants to public safety…according to their monthly report.
    I have to say, I am one of those weirdos that believe woman’s lib hurt us more then it helped us…and your post is one of those reasons. This just fucking ANGERS me!!!! hsferiuehoifesiojflesjfpo92qw30238r90preugior
    What a bunch of douchebags….

    • December 13, 2010 12:49 pm

      I don’t know who the fuck is on the board, either. Women, interestingly enough, are. And they don’t want us Women’s Commission advocate-y types on there with them as much as the men, apparently.

      Because women are just as bad at seeing reality as men are.

      And you’re right – the statistics would be much higher, but a lot of women are aware of [the group to prevent sexual harassment and rape] on campus, which has done a great job of outreach, and they report directly there instead. The statistics here don’t reflect those reports at all.

      You would think, at the very least people would want to work together on this, but they don’t even want to work with [the group to prevent sexual harassment and rape]. WTF is right.

      I have to disagree with you on if women’s lib helped or hurt us. Yes, it hurt us in the backlash, but that has to happen to change anything. People get pissed off when you don’t allow them their comfy little stereotyping boxes – and it’s worth the gains. I’d argue that this scenario is actually the result of feeling like women’s lib is over and women are complaining more than they should – same reason people complain that racism is dead, so somehow by trying to level that playing field, you’re actually being racist toward white people. Or something like that.

      Of course, the backlash to women’s lib is part of this as well. Regardless, it’s all buried, subtle bullshit discrimination that makes steam come out of my ears.

  9. December 13, 2010 6:07 pm

    Sigh. This is why I hate people.

    FYI, you type just like my cats when you’re angry.

    • December 14, 2010 12:10 pm

      I hate people too. Let’s start a club. We won’t let anyone else in. Except cats.

      I hope your cats aren’t as angry as I am. Maybe I should play with campons more (obviously people reading this will need to read your blog to even understand that reference).

  10. December 14, 2010 12:41 am

    Woho! Sexism is dead!! Finally! *head-desk*

    Can I ask what the dark green chunk of the chart is?

    • December 14, 2010 12:11 pm

      The *head-desk*: when the *face-palm* just isn’t enough.

      The rest of the chart is split into many groups – but I don’t remember them all. Definitely race in there, and religion, as well as issues among athletes, interestingly enough (this is also where you go for bullying – in theory). However, women and LGBTQ+ were the #1 and #2 spots.

  11. December 15, 2010 7:56 pm

    Its true, women’s lib was victorious, we only have to look at the ‘Hooters’ establishment to see how far it has got us…..

    • December 16, 2010 8:16 am

      Seriously. Even though I love boobies, I’ve never been to Hooters and I don’t plan on it. Even if the food was decent.


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